Alexis Rayne | Exister

      Breakups absolutely suck. That's just the truth. Trust me, I have had my share of bad relationships, break ups, rebounds, and complete heartbreak. Due to my experiences, I feel as though I am able to provide you with a little guidance on how to move on based on what's helped me.     First, I will provide a little background to stabilize my opinion. My most recent relationship was fine I guess...he just wasn't the person that I wanted to commit to spending the rest of my life with, so I ended it. Before that, I was stuck as the side chick in a long distance relationship and as much as I wanted to leave, the guy would threaten with suicide, so I was unable to until I dmed his girlfriend so that my part in the relationship could end. Before him, I was in an abusive relationship with a guy who ended up ghosting me. And in my first relationship, I was cheated on at least seven times.     To say the least, I've had my share of good and bad an...

      Life can get straight up boring. I know that isn't a fun way to look at things, but it's so true. We wake up, go to work or school or both, come home and relax on the couch or in bed, then go to sleep and repeat the same process again tomorrow. It's a repetitive cycle that gets us through everyday, but is that really all that there is to life? No!!!     Go home and instead of just sitting, try something new everyday until you've found something that you love! Hobbies are so necessary to breaking up the repetition of everyday life. I have listed a ton of hobbies below for you to try and linked a general page on how to get started below. I hope you have a blast reading it and find one or even a few things to interrupt your daily habits. 1. Art!     Oh? You said you're not good at art? Lies! There are so many different types and forms of art to try! Painting, drawing, sculpting, heck, there's even something called trash art! The only thing hold...

    Sometimes, the life we have simply does not feel like the life we should be having. Working 8-5 five days a week and then cleaning on the weekends just doesn't feel like what we should be doing. It just doesn't feel like living .     These ten tips are ones that I have personally applied to my life that have helped me feel more alive and productive while lifting my mood, bettering my day, and giving me lots of fun energy. 1. Detoxify your life     Just like you detox your body of harmful chemicals and bad foods, sometimes we have to detox our daily lives of things that are potentially or proven to be bad for us. This isn't an entirely fun or exciting process, but being around negative things or people can ultimately be part of the reason we have bad days and a negative view on life.  Some things I removed in my life detox Watching the News Unsupportive, immature, or negative friends, family, or coworkers Foods and drinks that make me feel gross Neg...

    Think of New Years. Everyone sets these amazing goals; eating better, cooking at home more, working out, saving money, and rarely do we actually keep and complete these goals. According to fsunews.com , 88% of New Years Resolutions are failed by the second week of February. When we give up on those new goals, it often discourages us further, prevents us from making new goals, and even makes us feel bad about ourselves.     Honestly, new habits are super difficult to make, harder to keep, especially when it involves breaking old habits. Then, in two or three weeks, when a friend asks, "hey, how's _______ going," it sucks to have to explain that it is simply no longer going.      I hated this cycle. I would work out for two or three days in a row, then quit. Or meal prep for one week, and end up still eating a bunch of Oreos because I was restricting myself. Finally, I figured out how to make goals for myself that I can continue and keep up wit...

      If you've read my prior post, you know that I chose to break up with my boyfriend of seven months. I had been loosely debating if he was the person that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and some of his recent actions had answered for me. I didn't want to be angry or upset, but after the break up, he continued to text and direct message me over three separate apps. Finally, today, I think all of the messaging and texting is over and we can both finally move on.      I've spent a lot of today answering questions about myself, writing, and reading about how to get over someone, but here is my spin on it. 1. Do not text them     Yea, I know. I screwed up this part which is why I feel like I can talk about it. The break up was my decision and my doing, but of course leaving my best friend still hurt really badly. When I broke up with him, it was an in person action, and he made no effort to change my mind or fix it. That nigh...