Alexis Rayne | Exister

       Hi friends! It's been a while since my last post and I've missed writing to you all so much. Today we're going to touch up on mental health during stressful times because that's what I've been dealing with recently and I think it's important.      Although it may not sound like a lot, I am graduating high school, transitioning jobs, beginning therapy, moving further into a relationship, and finishing college classes as well. I've been a little busy, and I get stressed really easily when things start to pile up. My hands shake constantly, I forget to eat, I let go of my finances and splurge on things I don't need, and I completely stop taking care of myself. On top of that, the lazy days that are supposed to be relaxing stress me out more because I'm not getting anything done or making progress and I just want to curl up under the covers and cry.      I know this really makes me sound like the person to be taking advice from, but I...

      From those blessed to the easiest, silver spoon lives to those struggling with severe problems, we all have something to heal from. As difficult as starting the healing process may be, a lot of times staying on that process is even harder. Healing mentally and emotionally are the same as healing physically, it takes rest, a little abnormal exercise, and there are a lot of bad days still in there. To add some support and guidance to your amazing journey of healing, here are some of the things that really helped me along my journey along with my story.     I was a extremely toxic person and sometimes I still am. I would ruin peoples days just because of my mood, I was always upset, and I chose horrible friends. I put myself in relationships that were abusive, toxic, and sometimes just wrong. Even worse, I gave myself no recovery time. If things ended with a toxic boy, there would be another one in just a few days. I developed eating disorders, horrible ...

      As much as we don't want to admit it, there's always that one person that you think about no matter how long it's been. There's the risky text that you want to send, the profile that you lowkey want to stalk, and the hope that person thinks about you too. Well, to answer all of your lingering questions, here's my story and advice on such matters.  1. Check in With Your Mental Health          Have you healed from the situation that you were in with that person? Are you strong enough for them to walk away from you or shut you down at the first attempt? Even more important, are you strong enough to leave at the first sign that this reconnection isn't good?  My story...      Very recently I reconnected with an old friend who once had the opportunity to become more. There were a lot of circumstances the last time we spoke that simply didn't allow for us to continue as friends, let alone more that friends. We spoke ov...

     Honestly? I absolutely love my life. Almost everyday of it I do my best to enjoy to the fullest. I loveeee how I'm living currently. Do I still have some toxic traits and habits that bring me down? Hell yea! Everyone does! But regardless, life is amazing.      This is recent though! I used to dread getting up in the morning. I used to groan about work and I complained about school every day. I grew to love and enjoy my life and it took some serious sacrifices. I had to let go of a guy who I thought I wanted to marry, I had to stop taking a medicine that I'd been on for months, and I had to make some crazy life changes.      Today, I'm writing this blog to hopefully guide you into loving your life as well, but be prepared to make some sacrifices along the way. 1. Find your priorities      Somethings are worth our effort, energy, and stress and others just aren't. Growing up, I was always told that school is your number one ...

      If you're reading this, then you probably already know that even though nothing is wrong, something obviously isn't right with whatever situation that you're currently in. It should be easy that if nothing is wrong then everything must be right, but you and I both know that it isn't always that simple.      First, I want you to know that I started writing this in aspects of a romantic relationship, but now I am realizing that it can apply to a variety of situations. My experience in this subject is coming from my most recently ended relationship, a few older relationships, and now a job position that I had to leave.      First of all, if you're reading this, then you more than likely already know if you should leave or not, but I will gladly give you the reaffirmation that you are searching for. Here are my main signs that I look for when I start to feel less than comfortable in a situation.  1. Are You Happy?     Not spe...

      It's so often that we find everyday is just like the last and we feel like we're in a fog of sorts. The calculated risk of change sounds too great to commit to but staying the same just won't cut it anymore. So here we are, stuck in a fog afraid of change left clueless of what to do.       Luckily for you, I'm here to help! I'm going to give you a few tips that help me have a good, fogless day that feels somewhat above average. These are just some quick things that I do almost everyday and they really help me out, so I hope they can help you out as well. 1. Move Your Body      Personally, I do a less than ten minute workout. I try to do this everyday, but sometimes skip three or more days. I get my workouts off of an app and I participate in a "Daily 7" program. Exercising raises your endorphins which is your body's "feel good" neurotransmitters, so it's like an instant mood booster.      Try yoga, a short workout pr...

      Breakups absolutely suck. That's just the truth. Trust me, I have had my share of bad relationships, break ups, rebounds, and complete heartbreak. Due to my experiences, I feel as though I am able to provide you with a little guidance on how to move on based on what's helped me.     First, I will provide a little background to stabilize my opinion. My most recent relationship was fine I guess...he just wasn't the person that I wanted to commit to spending the rest of my life with, so I ended it. Before that, I was stuck as the side chick in a long distance relationship and as much as I wanted to leave, the guy would threaten with suicide, so I was unable to until I dmed his girlfriend so that my part in the relationship could end. Before him, I was in an abusive relationship with a guy who ended up ghosting me. And in my first relationship, I was cheated on at least seven times.     To say the least, I've had my share of good and bad an...